I’ve been meaning to write this for some time but keep procrastinating. But something happened recently that made me decide to write this today, I’ll keep it short and straight to the point.

A friend of mine met this slim, tall, pretty girl and they’ve been getting along real good. But the girl is always very active in church, and I mean very active. She goes to church almost every day. After work, it’s straight to the church whether there’s service or not she must find an excuse to go.

Omo, it was a big red flag for me but I didn’t say anything to my guy even though he’s complaining about it to me. She practically neglect her own life. This church has like 4 services and she attends all 4 and still hang around afterwards, and also follow the pastor and his family back to their house to help with chores.

She entered one chance vehicle one night after her pastor kept her busy in the church until almost midnight and she got robbed of everything and flung out of the speeding car. She treated the injuries for over two months and she stayed without a phone until my guy eventually bought her a phone. Not a dime from the pastor

They’ll be together and immediately she receives a call from pastor she gets up like a robot and leaves no matter what. Her excuse is that she’s a worker in the church so she can’t abandon her role (are you the only worker in that church??)

On her WhatsApp status, it’s always pastor pastor pastor 

, never has she posted her guy’s face on her status 

She’s always broke, not even a dime in her name and I’m pretty sure where all her salary is going… Church. She’ll collect money from my guy to fulfill her pledge in church and goes back to being broke. It was so bad, I can keep going on and on.

Recently my guy jokingly told her about marriage and guess what she said, that he would follow her to her pastor, he’s the one who will tell her if she should go ahead with the marriage or not. Omo e off me 

She said because she doesn’t want to make a mistake and marry wrong person and most people are in wrong marriage because they didn’t consult their spiritual fathers blah blah blah

I laughed at my guy and told him point blank to dump her as$$ because even if pastor managed to approve, they’ll give him conditions and still force him to join the church and the pastor will have a say in every aspect of the marriage. Her father is alive and she doesn’t mention him at all, it’s only pastor that makes all the decisions. It’s a big turn off.

I’ve made up my mind that I’ll scrutinize any girl I want to marry very well and see if she has this bad trait in her before I proceed.

Happenings